How to Create A Blissful Home

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Home Sweet Home 

I'm sure you've seen the home decor wall art that say the infamous phrase, Home Sweet Home. Sometimes it's even written on front door mats. But I would like to ask, is your home really that sweet? 

When family or friends enter your home are they overwhelmed with a genuine sense of peace? Or are they caught off guard by intense feeling of negativity and unrest?

If you have a loving atmosphere where guests feel comfortable enough to want to move in with your family then you're doing an awesome job! But, if your family and or friends dread entering your home because they are stifled by the negative energy surrounding them then this posts is just for you.

I'm going to share with your a few tips on how to create and maintain a blissful home. 

First line of defense

Historically God has called women to be homemakers. Although, modern society has convinced both women and men otherwise.

Being a homemaker places us at the first line of defense. The way people perceive our home environment is more likely than not a reflection on how involved and committed we are towards our homemaking responsibilities. 

I like to say we women set the tone for our home's atmosphere. It's imperative that our actions and words are loving and fruitful. This is why the Proverbs warns against the nagging, unfruitful, contentious wife: 

Proverbs 14:1

The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.

Proverbs 21:9

It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs 21:19

It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful woman.

Proverbs 25:24

It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs 27:15-16

A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one's right hand.

In contrast the bible gives examples of the good fruits wives should bare: 

Proverbs 12:4

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 19:14

House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.

Proverbs 31:10-31

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar...

1 Peter 3:1-2

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. 

As a side note, even if you're single, unmarried, and or without children YOU are still responsible for taking on homemaking responsibilities. You can check out my blog post: Why Homemaking is for Single Women Too if this is your current situation. 

The Perfect Home

There isn't a such thing as a perfect family let alone a perfect home. What I mean is that there will be times where we women as homemakers will have challenging days. 

Whether you get the kids off to school late, you haven't done laundry in two weeks because you're getting the hang of nursing your infant, or your refrigerator just stopped running you're going to have bad days.

What's important is allowing yourself some grace and seeking God for strength to help you through when your patience is being tested. How you respond to adversity will either help you maintain a peaceful home or create unrest. 

Additionally, it's okay if your home isn't perfectly clean 100% of the time. Meaning, it's reasonable to have a few of the children's toys scattered around or possibly a dinner plate or two left in the kitchen sink from last night because you were just too darn tired.

It's better to have a home that feels lived in rather than one that feels cold, sterile and uninviting. Remember, it's your home so relax and enjoy it. Your home isn't suppose to resemble a sanitarium or surgery room.  

6 Tips on Creating A Blissful Home

1. Gratitude. You can wake up with the spirit of gratitude or attitude. When you make it a habit to thank and praise the Lord for waking you up each morning to include the members of your household it sets an atmosphere of gratitude.

When you are given an obstacle to overcome during the day you're less likely to have an attitude because you are grateful for what God has already done.

2. Prayer. I make it a point to pray over my home soon after moving in. Because you don't know anything about the last tenants or possibly the builders it's a good practice to bless your home. This reminds the enemy that he is not welcome in your residence. 

I caution you when doing this not to got too far by incorporating spiritual practices forbidden by God like burning sage or hiring a spiritual cleanser to come by and do the job. It can be as simple as going through each room proclaiming that Jesus Christ is Lord over your home. 

3. Forgiveness. This is very important. There will be times where you may disagree with members of your household or even quarrel. What you don't want to have is the spirit of unforgiveness. Unforgiveness is bound to create a heavy atmosphere. 

When you don't feel like forgiving remind yourself how Jesus Christ died on the cross to forgive your discretions. 

4. Worship. Make it a habit to play some worship music for the household to enjoy daily or every now and then or worship in private. Regardless it's important to worship the Lord in spirit and truth. 

When we worship it takes self out of the equation and shifts the focus on God. We are able to hear God's instructions much clearer when we aren't consumed with self constantly.

5. Servitude. I don't know about you, but I get pleasure in serving my husband. From fixing his dinner plate to making sure he has fresh wash clothes for his showers I enjoy taking care of him. 

Serving others is an important characteristic of being a Christian. The act of thinking of other's wellbeing and comfort will help foster peace and contentment in the home when done with a pure heart.

6. Homemaking. This is one of my most favorite tips. Do your best to create a homey atmosphere by:

  • interior/exterior decorating

  • preparing home cooked meals

  • having comfy accommodations for house guests

  • creating a cleaning routine

  • making quality family time a priority

  • lighting aromatherapy candles and or diffusers

You don't need to spend a lot of money on homemaking. Do what you can based on your budget. Get creative and think outside of the box.

I've gone to thrift stores for decor and furniture pieces. I've taken advantage of sales and coupons while grocery shopping. I've done budget friendly family nights. I've made my own cleaning products. I even made a comfy dog bed for my 60lb. Labrador mix out of old pillows and pillow cases. The list can go on and on. 

You should embrace homemaking with a smile. Doing so will help create a joyful atmosphere that others will take notice to. 

No Place Like Home

These are just a few ideas to consider when creating a blissful home. The goal is to have your home as a safe place from the chaotic, outside world. A place where the Holy Spirit can dwell each and every day. 

I'd like to add that if you're dealing with Negative Nancys and or Kelvin Killjoys in your home if you can't put them out, try your best to maintain a positive attitude anyhow.  

The Lord doesn't want us to repay evil for evil, but instead repay evil with love (Romans 12:21).

Our love towards others shouldn't be conditional. When it comes to facing our Father during judgement we all we give an account to our past deeds and how we treated others, to include those who have wronged us or have gotten on our last nerve.   

Let your actions be fruitful and reflective of Jesus Christ. Remember: 

1 Peter 3:1-2

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

 

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