If you're a woman I'm sure you've dealt with low self-esteem at some point in your life. Low self-esteem can stem from numerous triggers and certainly can affect your quality of life.
Unfortunately for some, it can take a turn for the worst to include deep depression and God forbid suicidal thoughts (please seek professional help if you have thoughts of suicide).
I'm here to tell you that you don't have to live day to day feeling lowly of yourself and there is hope.
My Back Story
I know what it's like to deal with low self-esteem first hand. Being petite in nature I'm told on a regular basis how short, small, and or skinny I am. As if I didn't already know. I mean I live in this body everyday, I get dressed the same way everyone else does, so why do I have to be reminded about my small frame?
Over the years this criticism got the best of me and bad relationships made things worst. This is why I feel it's important to share my story with other women dealing with the same issue.
My suggestions are not a one size fits all, but more so pieces of advice to help you along the way to a full recovery.
Realistically, you will not be an overnight success, but if you are truly ready to see yourself as a beloved child of God, you can do it!
Discovering the Root to the Problem and Using Biblical Principles to Overcome It
One of the most important steps to recovery is finding the root to the issue. For this to work you have to dig deep within and I mean deep.
Typically, low self-esteem is triggered by past hurts. Whether it's from a family member, a friend, a boyfriend, or possibly someone you had a quick encounter with people can be down right hurtful at times and perhaps evil.
Comments or actions made by people in your life can inadvertently effect how you perceive yourself. It can cause you to second guess your entire being.
One way to pin point these triggers is to begin jotting down your personal thoughts and emotions daily using a good ole fashion pen/pencil and a journal/diary. You'll be surprised what springs up when you challenge yourself to write daily about your personal life. It's very therapeutic.
If you are a creative thinker or dreamer take it up a few notches and write poems about your disposition. As time goes on new revelations will begin to surface and before you know it you've uncovered the triggers.
When I began dealing with my issues as seen in my video testimony: How I Conquered My Low Self-Esteem, I figured out why I saw myself as worthless and less than others. I had to forgive my ex-boyfriend for what he said and did out of ignorance.
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Watch My YouTube Video:
How I Conquered My Low Self-Esteem
UNDERSTAND YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Low self-esteem is not an isolated issue, but far too many of us struggle with it privately. Understand that you are not alone and in fact one of the greatest men in the bible felt as though he wasn't good enough to do God's work.
If you've read the Book of Exodus I'm sure you're familiar with the story of Moses and his assignment to lead God's people to the promise land. But did you know that Moses was unsure of himself due to his speech impediment?
10And Moses said unto the LORD, O my Lord, I am not eloquent, neither heretofore, nor since thou hast spoken unto thy servant: but I am slow of speech, and of a slow tongue. 11And the LORD said unto him, Who hath made man's mouth? or who maketh the dumb, or deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? Have not I the LORD? 12Now therefore go, and I will be with thy mouth, and teach thee what thou shalt say. 13And he said, O my Lord, send, I pray thee, by the hand of him whom thou wilt send.
Moses always dreaded speaking before the Israelites for fear they would judge him for not speaking well. It was difficult for Moses to accept that God could see past his slow tongue and could use him to deliver His people. For the longest Moses never felt good enough to walk into God's purpose for his life.
How many of you told yourselves that your disability is too great for God to use you? Come out of that way of thinking and stop placing God inside a little neat box. Open your heart and mind to God's purpose for your life.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
Easier said than done I know, but it's the truth. Sometimes it's not pain caused by others that contributes to low self-esteem, but it's the pressure we place on ourselves.
If looking at fashion magazines, blog posts, watching certain YouTube videos on beauty and make-up, or stalking celebrity Instagram posts brings you down, then you need to become mindful of what you set before your eyes.
If you aren't able to distinguish between a photoshopped/filtered image or an edited video then I suggest you take a break from both social media and television.
When you don't guard your eyes the world will have you to believe you don't measure up causing you to fix what's not broken, just like I attempted to do in my testimony video.
In addition, some of the very women you idolize for their beauty or glamorous lifestyle are dealing with low self-esteem themselves — they're just masters at putting up a facade. Don't be fooled!
God broke the mold when He created each one of us. He didn't want a world full of Kim Kardashians and Heidi Klums. He wanted diversity, uniqueness, variations.
So, if we are good enough for Him to breathe life into our bodies, then why is it so difficult to accept our individuality?
God's DNA runs through our veins because we are made in His image; therefore how dare we reject our bodies for we are part of Him. When you begin to compare yourself to others remember this:
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
TAKING TIME TO HEAL
There is no easy fix to healing years of low self-esteem. It's a process that takes time. The fact of the matter is only the love of Jesus Christ can completely renew the mind.
When you do a thorough self evaluation of the triggers and start to forgive even if it's forgiving yourself only then will you be open to receiving restoration from our Lord and Savior. That's what I had to do and I'm sure it will work for you too.
When your guard is up it's difficult to let in our Lord, but once you hand over your cares to Him, He'll take over from there. You just have to trust the process. And my dear sisters, keep your head up and focus on what's above, your Heavenly Father.
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Please share in the comments any personal experiences with low self-esteem and how you overcame it.