The Wrong Impression About Homemaking
Okay, so when the majority of us visualize homemaking one of the first examples that comes into mind is a stay at home married woman who takes care of the house with children and a husband who brings in all the bread, eggs, and bacon from outside of the home. We’ve been programmed through television and media that this represents homemaking and there is no other way.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but this is only one representation of homemaking and if you’re not too careful it can distort the important principles behind the true meaning of taking care of home.
Warning: If you are a feminist and feel as though homemaking is beneath women then this post may perturb you if you continue reading. You can’t say I didn’t warn your first and I strongly stand by my opinions of homemaking.
Speaking on the behalf of some women homemaking is considered an afterthought while they’re trying to figure out who they are as young adults and how they actually fit into society. While living wild, carefree, and independently who has time to put structures in place when it comes to keeping home?
I mean if it’s just you living all alone in your cozy, lil habitat why should it matter? I’m here to tell you that it does matter and you don’t need a ring on your finger, a husband that makes all the money, or a child to be a homemaker. Many homemakers hold 9-5 jobs just so you know. They get busy afterwork.
Even if you’re only 22 years old, fresh out of college with an entry level position, still wet behind the ears, and rooming with your college bestie you should be homemaking. Fortunately, some of you are already blooming homemakers and don’t even realize it. You’ve been taking care of business since elementary school when you got your first Susie Bake Oven.
WHAT IS HOMEMAKING?
To make it short and sweet homemaking is home management.
Now we’ll get into a few details about what home management entails:
- Cooking (t.v dinners do not count)
- Sewing (using sewing tape counts)
- Gardening (indoor gardens count)
- Care taking (tending to children, a spouse, extended family members and or pets)
- Creating from scratch (natural cleaning products, natural home remedies, etc.)
- Home schooling
- Planning and forecasting for the future (vacations, home buying, strategizing your exit from your crazy family)
- Stocking supplies (prepping for natural disasters and emergencies like the apocalypse, etc.)
- Paying bills (this prevents harassing phone calls from collection agencies)
- Nursing family members back to health
- Replacing, fixing & repairing things in the home (lightbulbs, changing air filters, caulking bathtubs, etc.)
- Hosting in home meetings and or gatherings
This is not an exhaustive list and some examples will not apply to every household. (some households are democratic and divide up the work, that’s fine too), but this is the gist of it. Also, you don’t need to master this list, I mean let’s be realistic. But I will say if you aren’t well adept in at least 3 of my basic examples you need some help, ASAP. Sign up for my weekly newsletter in the sidebar to get homemaking tips.
But I’m Single
Even if you’re single homemaking should be apart of your lifestyle. There will come a day where you’ll have to do your own laundry, cook a half decent meal and I’m sorry Top Ramen and box Kraft Mac N Cheese does not count, and how dare I say budget your own finances.
It’s called being a responsible, well rounded, I can do anything because I’m a multi-talented adult. A truly independent, single woman doesn’t need assistance (in most cases) in getting stuff done because she’s on top of her game.
She can save money by doing it herself, i.e unclogging her hair from the bathtub drain using a plumbing snake rather than calling a plumber, cause it’s going to happen again or preparing an impressive, romantic, three course meal for her deserving boyfriend by following a few Pinterest recipes.
If she decides to outsource her tasks or duties it’s no other than by choice and convenience.
People you can depend on will come and go, finances will get tight, but if you hone your homemaking skills now you’ll adjust to adversity and won’t break a sweat. And who knows, your new love for sewing your own toilet seat cushions may turn into a side business one day, hello Etsy anyone.
The Perks | Story Time
If you have the slightest desire to marry and or to start a family one day then having practiced your homemaking skills before hand will become invaluable.
I’m a keep it 100, I’ve never dated a man who didn’t appreciate a home cooked meal from his girl.
As a married woman it’s an unspoken rule in my household that I prepare my husband’s most favorite dishes from time to time. In fact, his favorite meal is my Shepherd’s Pie and the very first time I ever made it was when were married.
Before marriage I was turned off by the dish and never tried it. So when he requested it for supper before leaving for work one morning I got nervous because he’s a very picky eater.
I wanted him to love it so I went onto All Recipes, read a few different versions and got to work. Because I love to cook from scratch I was able to combine my know how in the kitchen with two different recipes and served him my special dish.
Not only did he love it, but he said it was better than his favorite restaurant’s version. He was so impressed I had to taste it myself. I’m not going to toot my on horn, toot toot, but I prepared this dish for the first time without tasting it beforehand and my picky husband enjoyed it. Now that’s some cooking skills for ya.
Before long I began cooking Shepherd’s Pie for the both of us to share. I’m now a vegan, but because I have a foundation with this recipe all I have to do is tweak it and it’s all good for me to enjoy again.
My whole point to this story is how having a solid foundation in homemaking can take you far in life.
YES, I'M THAT WEIRDO FRIEND YOU TALK ABOUT
In addition, if marriage and a family are not in your cards homemaking is still important.
I’ma let you in on a little secret. When you invite guests over to your house who are OCD like me when it comes to cleanliness, we notice everything including consistency in untidiness. There's a difference between being behind on your chores in all honesty and being a messy person.
From dust bunnies under your coffee table to Kool-Aid stains on your fridge shelf to cobwebs in the corners of your ceilings, we see it all. We can’t help it, its a disorder that we struggle with.
Now I’m not saying that I’ll end our friendship over the discrepancies described above, but it makes me a little uncomfortable sitting on your sofa I suspect has pepperoni smooshed in between the folds of the cushions from 14 days ago.
OKAY, I SUCK AT HOMEMAKING NOW WHAT?
First off, you don’t suck you just need a little guidance and encouragement. You’re now enlightened about the pros of homemaking and feel overwhelmed. But, I got you!
Here are a few tips to help with your transition:
- Pinterest. Pinterest is your best friend because it’s filled with homemaking ideas, how-to blog posts, inspiration boards, and lots of pretty pictures that get you excited about the idea of homemaking and how glamorous and fun people pretend it to be.
- YouTube. If you love watching other people get down and dirty with their supernatural homemaking talents, then this is the platform. Get an account and start subscribing to some of the top homemaking mavens like How Jen Does It and Lynette Yoder. If you can’t find motivation after watching their videos then shame on you. Just kidding, no really shame on you.
- Call your kin folk. If you feel intimidated about roasting your first whole chicken, then call up mama, grandma, and or auntie and pick their brain. I’m sure they will be more than willing to share their wisdom on how not to undercook or dry out a bird.
- Take a course. If your idea of budgeting involves saving two thirds of your paycheck every month to purchase $3000 Christian Louboutin heels while leaving one third for food, rent, gas, and utilities then I recommend signing up for a course in personal finance like right now. Get your finances together girl!
- Experiment. I can’t recommend this enough but try growing your own window seal herb garden, safely concoct your own laundry detergent recipe, see what happens when you change out your dated, grandma decor pillows, curtains, bedspread, and area rug with something stylish that suits your taste – maybe your friends will come visit you more often.
- Do your thing. Look, there is no wrong way or right way to homemaking. The most important thing is to learn what works best for your household. Just because Betty prefers to can her own meat doesn’t make you any less of a homemaker by buying yours fresh from your local farm. The point is to run your household like a well oiled machine using the oil specific to your household. I’m not the greatest gardener since I’ve had to bring my Aloe Vera plant and succulent back to life a few times, but I know how to clean a grungy bathtub in less than five minutes.
Lastly, I want to add that homemaking is important, but have fun with it. Don’t compare your apartment to someone else’s palace and especially, don’t take homemaking too seriously.
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