My best friend and I were discussing the other night how simpler life was before social media exploded to what it is now today. Everywhere we turn there is a new social media app being promoted or sensationalized.
Sometimes the popularity of these apps gets shoved down our throats, ahem FB ahem making you feel like an outcast if you don’t jump on board.
How many more ways can we come up with to share every aspect of our personal lives with total strangers? After trying FB, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and Periscope I’ve decided to keep it simple to maintain my sanity. Pinterest is my cup of tea for many reasons one of which is that it's less of a social media platform and more of a search engine.
Though not discussed enough, I will say the one thing the majority of these platforms have in common is the way they are helping to redefine standards of beauty particularly in women.
We no longer need beauty and fashion magazine subscriptions because SM has made it extremely easy to stay up to date with the latest trends, but to our detriment. In my humble opinion, SM has risen the standard of beauty to levels of such unattainability that many women lose their self-esteem and self-worth trying to keep up.
Who is that in the photo?
From selfie filters to advanced photoshop editing we’ve created alter egos and multiple personalities to put on display before hundreds, thousands, and sometimes millions of SM followers including social media stalkers and trolls.
We’ve become obsessed with how many likes and comments we receive on our latest selfie and if our fan base interaction happens to be low that day we quickly delete the post for fear minimal likes will ruin our social standing and or skew our analytic numbers.
Speaking specifically about IG we forgot the whole concept is to capture lil moments in life right as it happens. Instead, we stage our perfect selfie using a gorgeous, well planned background, the perfect outfit, and professionally done hair and makeup.
THEN as if that weren’t enough, we use all the top rated filters to make sure our cheekbones are highlighted to the gods and hair strategically placed to frame our face all while giving everyone the iconic Betty Boop pouted lip and pose.
Because we would “kill” for the perfect selfie, IG has accommodated the masses by offering more editing and filter options which in my opinion feeds into the selfie culture. Some apps take it to the next level by offering nip and tuck editing features. That's crossing the line!
When you're done posting your selfie you almost have to ask yourself, who is that in the photo?
I have nothing against capturing beautiful photos whether it’s to promote a business or to document a special moment in time, but when your self worth derives from how many people agree you are physically attractive on IG, Snapchat, FB, and the alike there’s cause for concern.
Ladies, you are more than your SM selfie
Ladies, you are much more than your SM selfie, you are beloved daughters of God:
- The same God who created all the heavens and the earth.
- The same God who pre-ordained your entry into this world even before your grandparents were born.
- The same God who is perfect and made you into the likeness of His image.
- The same God who has a mansion waiting for you to inherit one day.
- The same God who you thinks you are so special that His Son died for you at Calvary.
Your validation does not come from what others think of you because your Heavenly Father already validated you with His unconditional love. His love does not waver like the “love” of your followers when you post something they dislike.
Praise the LORD. Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.
Too much self in “selfie”
To be honest, there is something disturbing about the word selfie. The one phrase that I associate it most with is look at me, me, me and essentially that’s what it’s about.
The feedback received on your selfie whether positive or negative shouldn’t stroke your ego nor make you feel worthless. Remember, more than 90% of your followers or commenters will never meet you in real life nor get to know you on a deeper, personal level so don’t allow the response to your photo dictate how you feel about yourself. It’s all superficial.
1 Samuel 16:7
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
Where is the modesty?
It seems to me that even ordinary photos such as lounging in your pjs at home or going to the gym have become opportunities to show the world your assets and goods.
I believe modesty got lost in translation somewhere because the boundary lines of nakedness and wearing clothes that cover you up have blurred.
A woman can be completely clothed but if she posts a selfie purposely wearing skin tight gym clothing that accentuates and hugs every curve she may as well be naked. Please, don't be this woman.
Remember, that provocative picture you posted to get hundreds of likes and positive comments may be a good idea at the moment, but 3 years from now a SM account filled with those same type of selfies may cost you a job you interviewed for. Even worse, it might show up on a porn site without your permission.
The root to it all
I believe many of us women are craving attention because we are attempting to fill a void elsewhere in our lives so we’ve become chained to our selfie stick, smart phone, and filter apps. But the only way to fill that emptiness is to let Jesus Christ in.
I promise you if you seek a genuine relationship with him you’ll be more mindful of what you post on SM and will no longer feel the need to win the approval of others based off a selfie and clever caption.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
In time you’ll become self-less and focused more on others and the work God has called you to do. And when you do decide to snap a selfie your inner beauty will shine right through and you’ll never feel your self worth or validation is connected to how many comments or likes you receive.
In essence we women can overhaul the unattainable, self-centered, ever changing standard of beauty found on SM by knowing what precious daughter’s of God we truly are and by posting pictures that reflect that inner beauty.
––CALL TO ACTION––
I would love to read your comments regarding the selfie culture and how it has affected women overall.